I struggled with this as well, seeing every person as their own little universe of experiences we have no idea about makes it easier. I think about how I am and how others couldn't tell what was going on on the inside - why would any of them be different? They aren't. I learned that being angry at others due to their behaviour was because I wasn't being honest with myself. Feeling unheard or unseen was a huge trigger until I started seeing myself - without shame. Emotional regulation work, saved me in so many ways. Your words are exactly how you start embodying the thing :)
This is a great mantra and I shall use it to remind myself that “begins at home” means with me, and being at peace with me.
I’ve learned that forgiveness is not a one and one. It’s a process that can take years of repetition…like grief. When the hurt finally loses a tiny bit of sting, you are getting closer.
Thank you so much! You are correct! Peace begins at home within ourselves! So many times I’ve had inter arguments with myself regarding people who have wronged me or even hurt me or others I have loved. I’ve learned to accept and walk away with my dignity intact.
It makes lots of sense to me! There was that situation that brought me to Canada..I had/have so much anger. Not residual, just straight up original anger that's been stewing in my poor ravaged body ever since. Now that the fear is mostly gone, I am finally letting the anger spill out. 25 yrs of anger. Fibromyalgia, Syringohydromyelia, Cancer..FFS. I have handled the majority of sorrow and pain, as a child would and I'll tell you all I'm soon to be 67 years old (Feb 23) and it is never too late to let the poison of anger out. There is sometimes hard work in it, as at times it's popped up and stuck it's nasty tongue out, manifesting in all manor of ugly ways..then pulls it's head back in like a coward. Work on it..you sometimes have to dig at it, but try. I am. 💞
And Nell..you are a blessing. 💜
You’re the best
I struggled with this as well, seeing every person as their own little universe of experiences we have no idea about makes it easier. I think about how I am and how others couldn't tell what was going on on the inside - why would any of them be different? They aren't. I learned that being angry at others due to their behaviour was because I wasn't being honest with myself. Feeling unheard or unseen was a huge trigger until I started seeing myself - without shame. Emotional regulation work, saved me in so many ways. Your words are exactly how you start embodying the thing :)
Thank you Sherry
This is a great mantra and I shall use it to remind myself that “begins at home” means with me, and being at peace with me.
I’ve learned that forgiveness is not a one and one. It’s a process that can take years of repetition…like grief. When the hurt finally loses a tiny bit of sting, you are getting closer.
“Being at peace with me “- I’m working on it !
Thank you so much! You are correct! Peace begins at home within ourselves! So many times I’ve had inter arguments with myself regarding people who have wronged me or even hurt me or others I have loved. I’ve learned to accept and walk away with my dignity intact.
I wish you peace and love always! ❤️🙏
Thank you Nancy you too ! ❤️❤️
It makes lots of sense to me! There was that situation that brought me to Canada..I had/have so much anger. Not residual, just straight up original anger that's been stewing in my poor ravaged body ever since. Now that the fear is mostly gone, I am finally letting the anger spill out. 25 yrs of anger. Fibromyalgia, Syringohydromyelia, Cancer..FFS. I have handled the majority of sorrow and pain, as a child would and I'll tell you all I'm soon to be 67 years old (Feb 23) and it is never too late to let the poison of anger out. There is sometimes hard work in it, as at times it's popped up and stuck it's nasty tongue out, manifesting in all manor of ugly ways..then pulls it's head back in like a coward. Work on it..you sometimes have to dig at it, but try. I am. 💞
The body keeps the score !
Boy does it.